“Death is still a huge taboo in the Western world, and this taboo is mainly based on fear. Only during the process of exploring one’s own death someone is able to understand the importance of accepting and integrating death as one of the most powerful experiences of our life. In her inspiring book ‘Embracing the End of Life’ Patt Kyle has written a very useful tool to better understand the process of dying, not just as a physical, but also as a psychological, social and spiritual process. And this new insight contributes to an even better life right now. So ‘Embracing the End of Life’ is not only a compassionate guide for terminal ill patients and their families, but it is above all a very useful and practical guide for everybody who is consciously willing to change and to live a more happy, vital and spiritual life by diminishing the fear of one’s own death. “

DrPim van LommelDr. Pim van Lommel, cardiologist, New York Times bestselling author of Consciousness Beyond Life: The Science of the Near Death Experience.


“Patt Lind-Kyle’s book, Embracing the End of Life, is perhaps the most important book about death and dying present today. It provides a map of the emotional, spiritual and pragmatic issues that can help us normalize this most important passage so that we can live our lives with more emotional intelligence, kindness, awareness and love.”

Gary MalkinGary Malkin, Seven-time Emmy award-winning Composer and Co-author of Graceful Passages: A Companion for Living and Dying, and Founder of WisdomoftheWorld.com.


“Patt Lind-Kyle’s Embracing the End of Life is an invitation into the most tender and awake aspect of being human.  Those who are fortunate enough to have gravitated to this book will find it to be a wise handbook for living.”

Michael BeckwithMichael Bernard Beckwith, Best selling author of Spiritual Liberation, Inspirations of the Heart, Forty Day Mind Fast Soul Feast, A Manifesto of Peace, and Living from the Overflow.  Founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center, co-founder of the Association for Global New Thought, and co-chair of the Season for Nonviolence along with Arun Gandhi. Beckwith was one of the featured teachers in The Secret (2006).


“Forty-seven years ago Elisabeth Kubler-Ross rocked the world with her discussions on death. Her work largely led to the use of hospice. We ordinary mortals need a deeper personal journey to our own preparation for the inevitable march to that couch on which we lie down. Here is a wonderful guide.”

Dr Norm ShealyClyde Norman Shealy, M.D., Ph.D., American neurosurgeon and a pioneer in pain medicine;Founder and CEO, International Institute of Holistic Medicine; 
Co-founder, American Board of Scientific Medical Intuition
Editor, Journal of Comprehensive Integrative Medicine; Author of Blue Print for Holistic Healing, Medical Intuition and Living Bliss


The fear of total annihilation with physical death has caused more suffering in human history than all the physical diseases combined. Drawing on the world’s greatest spiritual traditions as well as modern science, author Patt Lind-Kyle pulls back the curtain of death and helps annul the horror that humans often experience in life’s final chapter.   Embracing the End of Life defies the widespread materialist assumption that consciousness is produced by the brain and is destroyed with physical death. It provides evidence supporting the emerging view of consciousness as nonlocal, thus immortal, eternal, and one.  It is difficult to imagine a more important contribution, because our very survival as a species on Earth will largely depend on our beliefs about what happens in the greatest transition of all.”

Larry DosseyLarry Dossey, M.D., Author of  ONE MIND:  How Our Mind Is Part of a Greater Consciousness and Why It Matters


“Embracing the End of Life” by Patt Lind-Kyle is a must have book for anyone who works with death and dying, or is interested in living a full and juicy life while alive.  Patt guides you to an even deeper exploration of your own personal clearing through energy templates, exercises and meditations needed to become Awakened. Being awake is our goal, Death is the doorway to that goal, and Patt has made that exploration possible, clear and worth every moment spent in doing it now.”

Linda FitchLinda L. Fitch, Shamanic Teacher of Dying Consciously


“Patt Lind-Kyle has written an essential book for the universal rite of passage that each of us must eventually face — whether through loved ones who pass before us, or at the end of our own life. It is high time that the culture claims this passage in reverence, and with proper preparation. This book offers the way to create a peaceful and enlightening death—just as it should be.

Anodea JudithAnodea Judith, Teacher of the Chakras and author of Wheels of Life.


“This is the most comprehensive and practical book on preparing to die consciously. How to prepare psychologically, spiritually and legally all presented in an approachable and usable manner. If you have any questions about healing your fear of death, read Patt’s book.”

Dale Borglum Ph.D., Spiritual counselor, Founder of The Living/Dying Project


“I am extremely impressed with Patt Lind-Kyle’s tremendous knowledge, experience, wisdom and her platform for sharing the important subject of life, death and dying with us. What Patt has done with the scope of this wisdom and application is an epic venture extraordinaire.”

Judith AstonJudith Aston, Founder of Aston Kinetics, Pioneer in the art and science of kinetics, Author of In Your Body On The Earth


“The fear of dying keeps countless people from living fully – as well as keeping countless others trapped in endless suffering. Embracing the End of Life will help all of us prepare joyously for the inevitable.”

Christiane Northrup, MDChristiane Northrup, M.D., OB/Gyn physician and author of the New York Times bestsellers: Goddesses Never Age: The Secret Prescription for Radiance, Vitality, and Wellbeing, Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, and The Wisdom of Menopause


“Delivering on the promise of its title, Embracing the End of Life is two books in one.  It is an eminently practical guide for dealing with pertinent details, from the prosaic – such as living wills and medical directives – to the esoteric, such as ways to recognize that you are dead (yes, a little-discussed problem sometimes encountered by the recently deceased). The book is also a detailed and powerful guide for what the author calls “awakening,” living a life that is informed by and made ever so much more precious by the fact that we are mortal. While not everyone’s favorite topic, if you think there is a chance you may one day die, we highly recommend this book.”

Donna Eden and David Feinstein Ph.D., Co-authors, The Energies of Love and the award winning classic, Energy Medicine (Both are NY Times best sellers)

David Feinstein, Clinical psychologist and a pioneer in developing innovative therapeutic approaches; Author of The Promise of Energy Psychology, Rituals for Living and Dying and Personal Mythology(with Stanley Krippner)

Donna Eden, Global teacher of how to work with the body’s energy system


“If you are mindful at death it will not come as a surprise. You will not be anxious. You will feel that death is merely like changing your clothes,” according to Patt Lind-Kyle.

In a culture such as ours that denies what it doesn’t understand, this is an intensely needed book. Our fear and ignorance leaves us fearful and woefully unequipped to deal with the most unavoidable experience of our lives . . . the event, the process, and the sequelae.

The author of this book has been stalked by death but has also stalked death herself, and been handed a most valuable gift that she passes on to us in this entertaining guidebook to a hitherto unknown land. Especially valuable are the many imagery, audio, and video experiences that are provided to help the reader move from a constricted to an expanded sense of self. Valuable for everyone including health professionals who need a way to be with the dying in a most effective manner– and are we all not, in a sense dying?”

I highly recommend that you purchase this book now, and read when the time is right for you.”

Dr Emmett MillerEmmett Miller M.D., Widely acclaimed for his role in creating the field of Mind-Body Medicine, Author of  Selective Awareness – the Mind-Body Approach, Deep Healing, The Essence of Mind-Body Medicine, Our Culture On the Couch, Seven Steps to Global Healing, and other books


“In her most recent book, Patt Lind-Kyle has offered a rare gem.  Weaving priceless threads from scientific, psycho-social, and spiritual traditions, as well as her own deep spiritual journey, we have in our hands a resource that guides us through the realms of expansive and liberated living that also helps us prepare for conscious dying.  Rich with open-hearted teaching and a wealth of valuable exercises, she poses some of the most important questions of our lives.  This book, to be revisited again and again, will have a prominent place on my bookshelf.”

Roxanne Howe-MurphyRoxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D., Author, Deep Living:  Transforming Your Relationship to Everything that Matters through the Enneagram, and Deep Coaching:  Using the Enneagram As A Catalyst for Profound Change; Founder, Deep Living Institute and Deep Coaching Institute


“In her latest book, Patt makes a major contribution to the field of death and dying, as well as helping us work through how to live our best life until the end. Her focus on the many aspects of the death process — physical, psychological, spiritual and legal — are useful not only for those aging or facing the end of life, but also for their spouses, children, friends and caregivers.  The book is both thought provoking and practical.  It will be one of the books I return to frequently to support my efforts to age and face death thoughtfully and gracefully.”

Gail AldrichGail Aldrich, Principal, The Aldrich Partnership and Nonprofit Leader and HR Executive.


“Dying is often defined as ceasing to live. Yet most of us only begin living when confronted with death. In Embracing the End of Life: The Journey into Dying and Awakening, Patt Lind-Kyle unravels the most important and most misunderstood aspect of life. For within the mystery of dying lies the key to living. This is a must-read for anyone wishing to breathe and live fully.”

Jacob LibermanDr. Jacob Liberman, author of Light: Medicine of The Future, Take Off Your Glasses and See and Wisdom From An Empty Mind


In Embracing the End of Life, Patt Lind-Kyle offers readers a multitude of useful approaches to the subject, along with numerous meditation exercises, guiding videos, and information on advance directives, organ donation, and other issues. This book can serve as a helpful unpacking of Ram Dass’ advice, “I assure you, dying is perfectly safe.”

Jeff Kane MDJeff Kane M.D., Physician; Author of: How to Heal: A Guide for Caregivers and Healing Healthcare: How Doctors and Patients Can Heal Our Sick System


“The most powerful motivation for living fully is the realization that physical life will one day come to an end. Those who recognize their own mortality are often inspired to prepare for the end of life, but have little idea where to begin or how to confront their limited knowledge and fears about dying and death. Fortunately, Patt Lind-Kyle’s transformational book Embracing the End of Life: The Journey into Dying and Awakening offers the precise guidance needed for the contemplation of death along with the tools to actually transcend fear and discover the joy of living with full awareness of mortality. This life-changing book is both inspirational and practical with age-related meditations, specific exercises to explore the roots of fear, and descriptions of enneagram and brain frequency patterns for various stages of life. As a guidebook for the journey from birth to death, Embracing the End of Life serves as a wise companion for those who dare to live deeply into the mysteries of life and death, with eyes wide open and mind fully centered in the present moment. This groundbreaking book has the power to change the perception of death for the individual reader and for society as a whole as we confront the most fundamental question of our humanity: “How do we live while knowing we will die?”

Karen Wyatt MDKaren M. Wyatt, M.D., Hospice Director and Physician, Spiritual Teacher, Speaker, Author of Award-Winning Book What Really Matters: 7 Lessons for Living from the Stories of the Dying and The Tao of Death


“If you were emigrating to a new country, you’d learn all you could about your destination before you left. Paradoxically, we don’t honor death with the same study, though our passage to this unknown land is an absolute certainty. In this comforting and practical book, Patt Lind Kyle clearly lays out the practicalities of dying for us and for those around us. She also describes the states of consciousness that spiritual traditions tell us lie beyond death, the stages our brains and bodies go through before and after death, and how we can prepare ourselves wisely while we have the cognitive faculties to do so. Exercises and checklists delineate the choices we can made in advance to make sure that our preferences are known to our caregivers. This wonderful resource is our guidebook to the country we’re all bound for, transforming death from a terrifying mystery to a conscious transition to the love that lies beyond.”

Dawson ChurchDawson Church, Ph.D., Best-selling author of The Genie in Your Genes and editor of the peer-reviewed journal Energy Psychology: Theory, Research, and Treatment, and general manager of Energy Psychology Press


“Embracing the End of Life provides powerful and inspiring insights and guidance along the path to freedom; freedom to face the obvious, inevitable part of our lives we call death; freedom to be fully alive.”

Marc LesserMarc Lesser, CEO, Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute; Author of Less: Accomplishing More By Doing Less, and Know Yourself, Forget Yourself.


“Patt Lind-Kyle has given us a marvelous manual for preparing the transition we all will make eventually. Brilliantly done, Embracing the End of Life provides the reader with many resources and guidelines that one can employ in ending one’s life consciously – a major benefit for oneself and one’s family and loved ones who remain.”

John ReneschJohn Renesch, Futurist, humanitarian, author of The Great Growing Up and 14 other books


“Patt Lind-Kyle gently takes our hand and walks us consciously through the death and dying process. In doing so she is a handmaiden to help us discover our true Self, and we learn that we are already the light into which we continue our journey.”

Rev Jerry FarrellRev. Jerry Farrell, Unity Minister and former Hospice Chaplain



“Impressively informed and informative, exceptionally well written, organized and presented, as thoughtful and thought-provoking as it is inspired and inspiring, Embracing the End of Life is an extraordinary and unreservedly recommended for both community and academic library Death & Dying collections and supplemental studies reading lists.”

~ Midwest Book Review Bookwatch, October 2017, Helen’s Bookshelf


“Embracing the End of Life is a remarkable perspective on the dying process, and from all angles. ” Read review.
~ Spirituality Today  Rating: 5 of 5 star rating


Brian Taylor offers the following book review in The Enneagram Institute® October 2017Newsletter:

“The study of death – the only certainty that life holds for us – must be central, for an understanding of death is the key to liberation in life.”  This seemingly paradoxical quote, from Dr. Stanislav Grof, is cited by Enneagram Institute student Patt Lind-Kyle in her latest book, Embracing the End of Life:  A Journey into Dying and Awakening (Llewellyn Publications, 2017).  It also encapsulates the fundamental two-fold approach that Patt employs in her overall structure of this book.   The first part is a moving contemplation on preparation for the inevitability of death that each of us will ultimately face. The second addresses the inner journey that we must pursue in our day-to-day lives to overcome resistance to the inescapable reality, and perhaps constant nearness, of our own death – an encouraging reminder to strive to live our lives now with mindfulness and awakeness.

In a thoughtful, warm, and non-threatening voice, Patt gently invites the reader to address the natural feelings – conscious or unconscious – of fear, pain, and separation that many of us may associate with the process of dying – the loss of all that is precious to us during our lives. Through a series of tender and compassionate exercises, practices, and meditations, Patt provides suggestions for reflection about death, suffering, and the meaning each of us searches for in life. The stages of the journey she shares, in many ways, reflects the process of true spiritual growth: acknowledging the constrictions and restraints we have that accompany our resistance to reality, enabling us to learn to let go, and, ultimately, to release and transcend those fears and restraints. As Patt puts it, “to surrender your physical life is to let go of the constricted self, this personality identity that you’ve created and lived with all your life.” It’s the path to the ultimate “letting go”. As Don used to say to me, the process of life is a gradual and necessary release of everything we possess, and, ultimately, of all that we think we are and an acceptance of all that we actually are.

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A response to Brian Taylor’s review:

I wanted to thank him [Brian] for the book review he did on Embracing the End of Life: A Journey Into Dying & Awakening in the recent newsletter of the Enneagram Institute.

 A little bit about myself – I am so afraid of dying that I wish I wasn’t born.  And knowing that as my dad used to say to me “we are not getting out of here alive” and with his recent passing, I realize how very true that is.  And so I know I must work on my fear. 

 I have studied the Enneagram for some time and love Don and Russ’s work so I subscribe to the newsletter – and that has paid off because now I have a tool to help me let go of this life limiting fear.  The book has been ordered!  And my journey will begin.

 Thank you, Brian Taylor and the Enneagram Institute.

With gratitude,

An Enneagram Institute subscriber


Dianne Richardson of NetGallery.com

Embracing the end of life-Patt Lynd-Kyle

I Recommend This Book   Yes

This book is written for anyone at any stage of their life who wishes to consider what death involves.

The author has worked with many people in a hospice situation, so is familiar with watching the death process and with counselling people who are facing an inevitable passing.

The book gives details of how the body is likely to face the death process. Giving as much detail as possible about the physical details. It also discusses how a person would face their passing emotionally and spiritually. Normal responses and emotional reactions are described and exercises given to help the reader process the situation and move on with peace and acceptance.

I was very impressed with the detail and depth of knowledge of the emotional responses. The exercises were interesting and useful, yet simple.

It is a book I would recommend to not only a person in a terminal care situation, but also relatives, friends and carers of patients and also those working with those in palliative care. It would be helpful for anyone wishing to face their feeling about death, of just to put their life in perspective in a spiritual and emotional way.

I got a lot from the book and would recommend it highly.” Read her full review … at NetGalley.