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“If you are mindful at death it will not come as a surprise. You will not be anxious. You will feel that death is merely like changing your clothes.” ~ Dalai Lama.

Most of you have read or heard me reaffirm, Death is a sacred act. It is the most important moment in our life. It is also the moment of waking up. Death is inevitable no matter how repressed we make it in our culture. We will all die. How do we prepare now and discover the freedom from the fear of death to live more expanded lives?

Over the next few weeks, I will be traveling across California to lead a series of dialogues around how we as individuals and as community can open ourselves to discuss this most important aspect of our lives.  My intention is to create a safe space where we can freely discuss our deepest desires and those of our dearest loved ones with our family, friends and community.

I invite you to join me either in person or listen on the radio:

Unity in the Gold Country
Sun February 18, 2018 ~ 10:30am PST
Workshop 12:30pm
180 Cambridge Court
Grass Valley CA 95945
See Unity Event

With James Bragg, KSAR-FM
Is Fear of Death Lurking Behind All Your Busy-ness?
Tue February 20, 2018  11am PST (1pm CST)

 

Community Dialogue and Book Signing
Sun February 25, 2018 ~ 11:30am – 2:00pm PST
Murphys Diggins Community Center
216 Tom Bell Road, Murphys, CA
Learn more at A Community Dialogue
Hosted by John Adams and Rhoda Nussbaum

The Mike Schikman Show, WSVA-AM
Is Fear of Death Lurking Behind All Your Busy-ness?
Tuesday, March 6, 2018
12:15pm PST (3:15pm EST)
Podcasts posted at Mike Schikman Show

Nancy’s Bookshelf with Nancy Wiegman
NSPR North State Public Radio
Wed. March 14, 2018 ~10am PST

Book Passage Corte Madera
See Event:  Embracing the End of Life
March 17 , 2018 ~ 11am PST
51 Tamal Vista Blvd
Corte Madera, CA 94925

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Meaningful dialogue

How Do You Face Transitions in Your Life in This New Year?

January is a threshold of time as the old year dies away and the new year is born. A new year offers a threshold of hidden potentials, meanings, purposes and transitions.

This year I went to three events where we did rituals of letting go of 2017 and imagining our dream and intentions for 2018. At each event I released illnesses, troubles and regrets into the fire. Then I wrote down my dreams and intentions for the next year in order to make this new year meaningful in order to experience a sense of happiness and joy. Writing down my dreams and intentions will help me revisit my intentions at the end of 2018.  By this time in your life you have been through a few of these year end experiences and have made many new year transitions in your life. But more than just a new year reflection, transitions are a major part of our process of living day to day.

However, you may not have considered that your birth, the beginning of your life, was your very first transition. Your birth is similar to opening to the transition of this new year. Each year is a new opportunity to be “born again”. Beyond your birth the next and final transition in your life is the major transition of experiencing your death. Dying is like releasing the old year. These are the two major transitions that are the most important moments in your life and each is a major transition of the purpose and meaning of your existence. Amazingly, beyond these two markers we go through beginnings and endings all through our life in the form of minor to major transitions never thinking that if there is a beginning of a transition there is always an ending.

Consider for yourself these two major moments of transition in your life. I am fascinated by the rituals that exist at the birth of life. A pregnant mother begins to nest and gather what is needed for the arrival of the baby. Whereas a conscious dying person reverses the process, instead of gathering their nest they give things away and get practical matters in order for their family so they can complete their life.

Another similarity of these two transitions is that a new mother may wonder if she has room in her heart to love the new being when her baby arrives. The dying person wonders how to let go of the ones they love.

In both the birthing and dying process fear and confusion can interfere with these transitions. These same fears occur with the mother frightened of the pain of birthing and the same fear in the death process for the person dying as well as for the family and the caregivers. It is surrender and letting go that are needed both for dying and birthing. In the end, you can experience the positive nature of both these major transitions if you prepare for them, just as we prepare for all the minor transitions in our lives.

As I’ve indicated above, in each of the birth and death transitions there is a need to preparation. Let me give you an example of a wonderful end of life preparation for a dying person. I received a beautiful note from Meriel who had read my book Embracing the End of Life.  Meriel gave an incredible description of how the information from the book allowed Meriel to help her dear friend make her transition consciously and in peace. Meriel said, “the suggestions in the book of what a dying person close to death would want to hear was especially important”. She also included the idea that, “planning how one would like to orchestrate their final days/passing and after death is seemingly so important and not just the legalities but all the details of one’s choice of environment and the people that will be there.”

We make lots of preparations for having a baby but how about making preparations for the end of our life. Meriel showed the importance of preparation for her dear friend.

For the transitions coming in this new year remember it is the preparation, the thought and the awareness that will help you prepare for your final transition. A very blessed New Year to each of you.

6 Funeral Trends That Are Changing Death Rituals

A few interesting options worth investigating

by Leanne Pott, AARP, November 20, 2017

Photo by Sam Kaplan for AARP

Writing for AARP, Leanne Pott shares six new trends that are transforming funeral and burial processes in the United States.  She has not included the the Kiwi Coffin Clubs that are popping up in New Zealand where people create their own unique and often artist coffins.  Although, she does include themes about in home death preparations from In the Parlor.

She opens by noting that:

Last year, cremation surpassed traditional burials for the first time in the United States.

Traditional funerals are on their death bed. More people are skipping the two days of visitation, religious service and burial of an embalmed body in a casket that can cost as much as a used car, and instead opting for funerals that are easier on the planet and the budget. They’re going for more personal rituals, too, that break the rigid customs that became the norm in the 20th century. Here’s a look at what’s out there.”

In addition to cremations, she discusses the emerging popularity of water cremations, green burials, at-home funerals, therapy dogs, and creative ideas for “more interesting things to do with loved ones’ cremains than leave them in an urn. A British company will press them into a vinyl record with a custom song. Your local tattoo artist can mix them into tattoo ink and give you a custom tat in their honor. And an Alabama company will put them into the ammo of your choice so you can blast them to the afterlife in a one-gun salute. Because scattering ashes is so 2001.”

Free the full article on AARP.com at 6 Funeral Trends That Are Changing Death Rituals.

Kiwi Coffin Club Throws Glitter on the Idea of Dying

A growing number of New Zealand senior citizens are taking matters of death into their own hands through paint, song, and dance to build their own coffins.

The show must go on! Or must it? The members of New Zealand’s quirky Coffin Clubs don’t think so. The clubs—which consist of Kiwi senior citizens who seek comfort, community, and coffin-making—is gaining popularity among New Zealanders, as well as internationally.

This is an article and video that will tickle your heart and inspire new perspectives on how to prepare for your own death and burial.  A brilliant way to express yourself both in living and dying!

Learn more from National Geographic, October 19, 2017 by Austa Somvichian-Clausen

A Community Dialogue and Book Signing – Murphys, CA

A Community Dialogue and Book Signing

with Patt Lind-Kyle, MA

The Murphys Diggins Community Center
216 Tom Bell Road, Murphys, CA
Sunday February 25, 2018 ~ 11:30am – 2:00pm

Join us for “Finger Food” Pot Luck & Book Review
Please bring a dish to share if you can!

Hosted by John Adams & Rhoda Nussbaum

Books available onsite through Sustenance Books

Please RSVP John Adams 415 385 8388 or jadams655@att.net

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Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying & Awakening

Death is simply one more aspect of being a human being, but in our culture, we’ve made it a taboo. As a result, most of us walk through life with conscious or unconscious fears that prevent us from experiencing true contentment. Embracing the End of Life invites you to lean into your beliefs and questions about death and dying, helping you release tense or fearful energy and awaken to a more vital life now.

Author – Patt Lind-Kyle
Patt’s latest book Embracing the End of Life was #1 Amazon New Release for multiple Death & Grief categories. Her book Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain won the Independent Publishers Gold Medal Award and a Best Book Award from USA Book News.  Patt has written a chapter in Audacious Aging and she is also the author of When Sleeping Beauty Wakes Up.

Hosted by John D Adams, PhD and Rhoda Nussbaum, MD

John and Rhoda are hosting this Community Dialogue and Embracing the End of Life Book Signing event for their community in Murphys, CA.

John has been a professor, manager, author, international speaker, consultant, and seminar leader. John served as the Chair of the Organizational Systems Ph.D. Program at Saybrook University (San Francisco) for 10 years, and also as a guest faculty member in a number of post-graduate programs.

In retirement, John focuses on volunteer and service work. In Calaveras County, he has served on a variety of local nonprofit boards of directors / advisors. Internationally, he was on the board of Prevention International: No Cervical Cancer, where he also served as the Administrative Director for PINCC-India. His recent local seminars have focused of End of Life preparation; and on promoting individual well-being, household emergency preparation, and community development in the Sierra Foothills communities.

Rhoda is an obstetrician/gynecologist, serving for 30 years at the Kaiser Permanente Medical Center in San Francisco. She also served as Assistant Physician in Chief of the medical center and was Founding Director of the KP Northern Region Women’s Health Program.

In retirement, Rhoda focuses on volunteer and service work. She is a mentor in The Calaveras Youth Mentoring Program and has served on local nonprofit boards. Internationally, she was on the board of Prevention International: No Cervical Cancer, where she served as Medical Director for PINCC-India. She was involved in lobbying for the California End of Life Options Act, and currently offers seminars on End of Life preparation.

Spirituality Today – Book of the Month

Spirituality Today has designated Embracing the End of Life as Book of the Month for October 2017!

However you look at it Embracing the End of Life is a remarkable perspective on the dying process, and from all angles. Its spiritual perspective adds greatly to the sheer practicalities of the decaying of the physical body and its clear spiritual undercurrent whilst managing to avoid touching upon the thorny issue of religion. Having said that the writing in this work does lean towards Eastern philosophies at time but this is probably somewhat rather inevitable given their more mature and supportive perspective on death.  This includes a strong emphasis on meditation as an important exercise throughout life and a brief look at the Enneagram.

Throughout its pages Embracing the End of Life offers a good balance between commentary, exercises, advice and guidance. It is a well-constructed publication and written with a sympathetic but non-condescending style. I would heartedly recommend it to anyone contemplating the final stages in their life but feel it will be of immense value to those who are trying to aid them through that transition.

Death is, from our physical perspective, the final journey we make. Confronting the issues imposed by the final days of our lives is the greatest of all challenges. 

Sadly, we do not live in a society that adequately prepares us for that last great leap into the unknown. Someone who is keenly aware of that fact is Patt Lind-Kyle; an author, teacher, therapist, speaker and consultant who’s book Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain won the Independent Publishers Gold Medal Award and Best Book Award from USA Today News. In her nook Embracing the End of Life she tackles that same thorny issue of dying and offers some practical advice for those making the final steps into death.

Read the full review at Our Review of Embracing the End of Life by Patt Lind-Kyle

Spirituality Today Rating 5 of 5 start rating

Read more on Embracing the End of Life.

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Our hearts, not our intellects, see our world as it actually is – an interconnected whole. That is why heart-based wisdom provides our most realistic, effective answers. However, when a tough issue or conflict occurs we so often contract and lose access. Now, when you can’t “​Stop, Drop, and Ask”​ your ​own heart, AskLove.org provides an online Forum where you share your situation and source heart-based, peer-reviewed solutions from the community. Transform challenges into opportunities. Discover your heart’s wisdom. Receive and offer support while creating a positive shift for humanity.

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Patt Lind-Kyle

Yes you CAN teach your brain new tricks!

Yes you CAN teach your brain new tricks!

Retraining Your Inner “Old Dog”: Yes, You Can Change Your Life…But First You Must-Literally-Change Your Mind.
Most of us believe that there are aspects of ourselves and the way we fit into the world that can’t be changed, whether we like it or not. But what if that’s not the case after all? Author Patt Lind-Kyle promises that you can change your life (and literally rewire your brain!) through a method that has been around for millennia: meditation.

If you’re like most people, you’re dissatisfied with some area of your life. Perhaps you’re stuck in a dead-end job or an unfulfilling relationship. Maybe you’re deep in debt from compulsive spending, or you abuse substances, or you habitually overeat. Or it could be that you just feel unhappy in general: anxious, stressed, depressed, or chronically angry. But no matter how fervently you vow to stop your unhealthy behaviors or change your attitude, you find yourself backsliding-eating another doughnut, sneaking another cigarette, or dwelling on the painful memories that make you miserable.

Maybe life has to be this way, you find yourself thinking. Maybe unhappiness is just a big part of the human condition. Maybe the best we can hope for is to distract ourselves from time to time and just try to endure. Sure it’s a bleak outlook, but isn’t it also a realistic one?

“Absolutely not,” asserts Patt Lind-Kyle, author of Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain: Applying the Exciting New Science of Brain Synchrony for Creativity, Peace and Presence (Energy Psychology Press, 2009, ISBN: 1604150564) and mind training guide whose voice appears on the book’s companion CDs. “It is possible to change your life in any way you want to change it. But first you have to understand what’s at the root of your problems: your mind and the way it directs your brain to function-basically, where you place your attention.”

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Patt Lind-Kyle Prepare to Die - Awakening process

Women: Are you proud to be overwhelmed?

Patt was recently mentioned in this article in Women’s Health at MSNBC.com – check it out to find some great tips on how to manage stress from Patt and other experts in her field:

When you think about it, stress is a mysterious thing: You can’t see it or touch it, but you definitely know it’s there. And its enigmatic nature just might be preventing us from fully realizing the damage stress can do to our minds, bodies, and spirits. Read more…

First place, gold medal: Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain receives book award

Author and consultant Patt Lind-Kyle has been named a 2010 Living Now Book Awards gold medalist in the Health/Wellness category for her book, Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain.

Part of the Independent Publisher Book Awards (known as “Ippys”), the Living Now Book Awards are awarded in 30 lifestyle categories, and are “intended to promote newly-published lifestyle books that will help readers enrich their lives in wholesome, Earth-friendly ways.”

Chosen from among 428 total entries, Lind-Kyle’s book, Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain: Applying the Exciting New Science of Brain Synchrony for Creativity, Peace and Presence (Energy Psychology Press, 2009, ISBN: 978-1-60415-056-8, $26.95) explains the science behind neuroplasticity, or the brain’s ability to grow, change, and forge new neural pathways at any age. The book, accompanied by companion guided-mind training CDs, also gives readers the instructions and tools necessary to “rewire” their own brains for increased focus, emotional control, reduced stress levels, and higher levels of balance, creativity, and happiness.

More than just a study of how personality typing, meditation, mind training, neuroscience, and brain chemistry intersect and interact, the book is a tool that readers can use to achieve a higher state of personal evolution.
“The truth is, the world we live in will never magically become stress-free,” Lind-Kyle observes. “But it is possible (and surprisingly straightforward!) to train yourself to meet challenges head-on with a stable, focused, and calm mind. And that will make all the difference.”

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About the Author:
Patt Lind-Kyle is an author, therapist, speaker, trainer, and consultant. She is a former professor at Foothill College, and founder of a learning assessment company that applies neuro-monitoring tools for stress management, health, and peak performance. Her research, writing, and teaching in the mind/brain field center on using an EEG brainwave monitoring system to help individuals maximize their brain-mind potentials.

Patt has written a chapter in Audacious Aging: “Building Community from the Inside Out” (Elite Books, 2009). She is also the author of When Sleeping Beauty Wakes Up (SwanRaven, 1994).

For more information, please visit www.pattlindkyle.com.

About the Book:
Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain: Applying the Exciting New Science of Brain Synchrony for Creativity, Peace and Presence (Energy Psychology Press, 2009, ISBN: 978-1-60415-056-8, $26.95) is available at bookstores nationwide and through major online booksellers.

About the CDs:
Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain: Companion CDs for the Book (2-CD set, $14.95) contains six sessions that guide listeners through the exercises and practices relating to each of the four brainwave frequencies as described in the book. The CDs can be used in conjunction with the book, or as a stand-alone tool. To download a free mp3 of one of the exercises or to purchase the CDs, please visit http://www.pattlindkyle.com/sho/cds/.

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