How Do You Face Transitions in Your Life in This New Year?

January is a threshold of time as the old year dies away and the new year is born. A new year offers a threshold of hidden potentials, meanings, purposes and transitions.

This year I went to three events where we did rituals of letting go of 2017 and imagining our dream and intentions for 2018. At each event I released illnesses, troubles and regrets into the fire. Then I wrote down my dreams and intentions for the next year in order to make this new year meaningful in order to experience a sense of happiness and joy. Writing down my dreams and intentions will help me revisit my intentions at the end of 2018.  By this time in your life you have been through a few of these year end experiences and have made many new year transitions in your life. But more than just a new year reflection, transitions are a major part of our process of living day to day.

However, you may not have considered that your birth, the beginning of your life, was your very first transition. Your birth is similar to opening to the transition of this new year. Each year is a new opportunity to be “born again”. Beyond your birth the next and final transition in your life is the major transition of experiencing your death. Dying is like releasing the old year. These are the two major transitions that are the most important moments in your life and each is a major transition of the purpose and meaning of your existence. Amazingly, beyond these two markers we go through beginnings and endings all through our life in the form of minor to major transitions never thinking that if there is a beginning of a transition there is always an ending.

Consider for yourself these two major moments of transition in your life. I am fascinated by the rituals that exist at the birth of life. A pregnant mother begins to nest and gather what is needed for the arrival of the baby. Whereas a conscious dying person reverses the process, instead of gathering their nest they give things away and get practical matters in order for their family so they can complete their life.

Another similarity of these two transitions is that a new mother may wonder if she has room in her heart to love the new being when her baby arrives. The dying person wonders how to let go of the ones they love.

In both the birthing and dying process fear and confusion can interfere with these transitions. These same fears occur with the mother frightened of the pain of birthing and the same fear in the death process for the person dying as well as for the family and the caregivers. It is surrender and letting go that are needed both for dying and birthing. In the end, you can experience the positive nature of both these major transitions if you prepare for them, just as we prepare for all the minor transitions in our lives.

As I’ve indicated above, in each of the birth and death transitions there is a need to preparation. Let me give you an example of a wonderful end of life preparation for a dying person. I received a beautiful note from Meriel who had read my book Embracing the End of Life.  Meriel gave an incredible description of how the information from the book allowed Meriel to help her dear friend make her transition consciously and in peace. Meriel said, “the suggestions in the book of what a dying person close to death would want to hear was especially important”. She also included the idea that, “planning how one would like to orchestrate their final days/passing and after death is seemingly so important and not just the legalities but all the details of one’s choice of environment and the people that will be there.”

We make lots of preparations for having a baby but how about making preparations for the end of our life. Meriel showed the importance of preparation for her dear friend.

For the transitions coming in this new year remember it is the preparation, the thought and the awareness that will help you prepare for your final transition. A very blessed New Year to each of you.

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A season of giving

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In this season of giving and celebrating,

I invite you to gift yourself and your loved ones the freedom of breaking through old confining traditions. Open to new dialogues and experience the joy of letting go of unexamined fears.

My dream is that my books and just released meditations will increase your courage to release your deepest fears and that you will know the truth of your own path for yourself.  This freedom will open you and loved ones to a more vital and joyful life now.

Gift yourself and loves now …

Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying & Awakening

Just announced by Spirituality Today 5 of 5 start rating – Pick of the Year – Top 5 Books for 2017!

Exploring multiple aspects of life and death—with everything from chakras and the Enneagram to living wills and health care directives—this book is meant to help you unwind the challenge of death and discover the truth of your own path to inner freedom.

Buy Embracing the End of Life on Amazon

Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain

 

Heal Your Mind

The key purpose of this book is to have you understand the nature of your own mind, how it interfaces with brain structures, and how meditation or mind training can help you find happiness and peace of mind. The heart of the book teaches the synchrony of the four brain wave patterns and the unique way each reader can bring their brain wave patterns into harmonization.

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Guided Meditations for Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain

Two companion CDs of guided meditations by Patt accompany, “Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain.” Listen to these companion CDs to train your mind to go into deeper meditative states. Binaural beat pulsations in the background of each track increase the effectiveness of the meditations. They will also rapidly increase your mental and emotional stability and support the rewiring of your brain.

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Instrumental Meditation Music Only

Many of you have listened and worked with the two CD set of guided meditations, “Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain” CDs. There reaches a point in your development of meditation when it would be beneficial not to have the verbal guidance that I provide with each brain wave frequency. This CD has just the music for each brain frequency with the binaural beats imbedded into the music.

 

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6 Funeral Trends That Are Changing Death Rituals

A few interesting options worth investigating

by Leanne Pott, AARP, November 20, 2017

Photo by Sam Kaplan for AARP

Writing for AARP, Leanne Pott shares six new trends that are transforming funeral and burial processes in the United States.  She has not included the the Kiwi Coffin Clubs that are popping up in New Zealand where people create their own unique and often artist coffins.  Although, she does include themes about in home death preparations from In the Parlor.

She opens by noting that:

Last year, cremation surpassed traditional burials for the first time in the United States.

Traditional funerals are on their death bed. More people are skipping the two days of visitation, religious service and burial of an embalmed body in a casket that can cost as much as a used car, and instead opting for funerals that are easier on the planet and the budget. They’re going for more personal rituals, too, that break the rigid customs that became the norm in the 20th century. Here’s a look at what’s out there.”

In addition to cremations, she discusses the emerging popularity of water cremations, green burials, at-home funerals, therapy dogs, and creative ideas for “more interesting things to do with loved ones’ cremains than leave them in an urn. A British company will press them into a vinyl record with a custom song. Your local tattoo artist can mix them into tattoo ink and give you a custom tat in their honor. And an Alabama company will put them into the ammo of your choice so you can blast them to the afterlife in a one-gun salute. Because scattering ashes is so 2001.”

Free the full article on AARP.com at 6 Funeral Trends That Are Changing Death Rituals.

What the living can learn from the dying

A Buddhist teacher on what the living can learn from the dying

Vox.com, Sean Illingsean.illing@vox.com

“When we come close to the end of our life, what’s really important makes itself known.”

A Buddhist teacher on what the living can learn from the dying

“We know that we will die, yet we spend much of our lives trying very hard not to think about it. But is it wise to ignore death? Could we live better if we spent more time thinking about our own mortality?

Frank Ostaseski is the author of The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach the Living and helped found the Zen Hospice Project’s Guest House.

In an interview with

“Buddhist practice, with its emphasis on impermanence, the moment-to-moment arising and passing of every conceivable experience, is an important influence in my life and work with dying. Facing death is considered fundamental in the Buddhist tradition. Death is seen as a final stage of growth. Our daily practices of mindfulness and compassion cultivate the wholesome mental, emotional, and physical qualities that prepare us to meet the inevitable.

Through the application of these skillful means, I learned not to be incapacitated by the suffering, but allow it to become the ground of compassion within me. Meditation practice develops the equanimity that often allowed me to be the one calm person in a very chaotic situation.

Finally, in Buddhist thought, one aspect of compassion is boundless and all embracing. We might call this universal compassion. Then there is everyday compassion. The compassion that gets expressed in daily life, when we feed the hungry, stand against injustice, change soiled sheets or listen generously to a friend’s broken heart. We may be effective or ineffectual in our efforts, but we do the best we can. These two facets of compassion rely on each other.”

For the full interview, visit: A Buddhist teacher on what the living can learn from the dying.

For other resources, visit: End of Life Resources.

Kiwi Coffin Club Throws Glitter on the Idea of Dying

A growing number of New Zealand senior citizens are taking matters of death into their own hands through paint, song, and dance to build their own coffins.

The show must go on! Or must it? The members of New Zealand’s quirky Coffin Clubs don’t think so. The clubs—which consist of Kiwi senior citizens who seek comfort, community, and coffin-making—is gaining popularity among New Zealanders, as well as internationally.

This is an article and video that will tickle your heart and inspire new perspectives on how to prepare for your own death and burial.  A brilliant way to express yourself both in living and dying!

Learn more from National Geographic, October 19, 2017 by Austa Somvichian-Clausen

A Community Dialogue and Book Signing – Murphys, CA

A Community Dialogue and Book Signing

with Patt Lind-Kyle, MA

The Murphys Diggins Community Center
216 Tom Bell Road, Murphys, CA
Sunday February 25, 2018 ~ 11:30am – 2:00pm

Join us for “Finger Food” Pot Luck & Book Review
Please bring a dish to share if you can!

Hosted by John Adams & Rhoda Nussbaum

Books available onsite through Sustenance Books

Please RSVP John Adams 415 385 8388 or jadams655@att.net

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Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying & Awakening

Death is simply one more aspect of being a human being, but in our culture, we’ve made it a taboo. As a result, most of us walk through life with conscious or unconscious fears that prevent us from experiencing true contentment. Embracing the End of Life invites you to lean into your beliefs and questions about death and dying, helping you release tense or fearful energy and awaken to a more vital life now.

Author – Patt Lind-Kyle
Patt’s latest book Embracing the End of Life was #1 Amazon New Release for multiple Death & Grief categories. Her book Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain won the Independent Publishers Gold Medal Award and a Best Book Award from USA Book News.  Patt has written a chapter in Audacious Aging and she is also the author of When Sleeping Beauty Wakes Up.

Hosted by John D Adams, PhD and Rhoda Nussbaum, MD

John and Rhoda are hosting this Community Dialogue and Embracing the End of Life Book Signing event for their community in Murphys, CA.

John has been a professor, manager, author, international speaker, consultant, and seminar leader. John served as the Chair of the Organizational Systems Ph.D. Program at Saybrook University (San Francisco) for 10 years, and also as a guest faculty member in a number of post-graduate programs.

In retirement, John focuses on volunteer and service work. In Calaveras County, he has served on a variety of local nonprofit boards of directors / advisors. Internationally, he was on the board of Prevention International: No Cervical Cancer, where he also served as the Administrative Director for PINCC-India. His recent local seminars have focused of End of Life preparation; and on promoting individual well-being, household emergency preparation, and community development in the Sierra Foothills communities.

Rhoda is an obstetrician/gynecologist, serving for 30 years at the Kaiser Permanente Medical Center in San Francisco. She also served as Assistant Physician in Chief of the medical center and was Founding Director of the KP Northern Region Women’s Health Program.

In retirement, Rhoda focuses on volunteer and service work. She is a mentor in The Calaveras Youth Mentoring Program and has served on local nonprofit boards. Internationally, she was on the board of Prevention International: No Cervical Cancer, where she served as Medical Director for PINCC-India. She was involved in lobbying for the California End of Life Options Act, and currently offers seminars on End of Life preparation.

Patt Lind-Kyle on Voice For Truth

Patt on VoiceAmerica’s Voice for Truth

Patt Lind-Kyle on Voice For Truth

Click to listen to Patt’s podcast on Voice of Truth on Voice America.

Sharon Ann Wikoff, host of Voice For Truth, interviews Patt Lind-Kyle about her newest book Embracing The End of Life: A Journey into Dying & Awakening on Monday, November 27 at 9am Pacific.

Patt invites us to truly embrace death so we can be free to live more fully. Do you avoid thinking about your death? Have you considered developing a relationship with dying? Death is simply one aspect of being human, but in our culture, we’ve made it taboo. Thus, most of us walk through life with fears that prevent us from experiencing true contentment. Embracing the End of Life invites you to lean into beliefs and questions about death and dying to release fearful energy and awaken to a more vital life now. Preparing mentally, emotionally, and spiritually for this inevitable transition provides clarity and strength. Exploring multiple aspects of life and death, this book helps unwind the challenge of death and discover the truth of your own path to inner freedom.

 

Read more…

I hope you will join us,

Patt Lind-Kyle

 

About Voice For Truth and Sharon Wikoff

Monday at 9 AM Pacific Time on VoiceAmerica Variety Channel

Would you like to realize your full potential? Do you ever dare to consider what is really possible for yourself and our world?

On VOICE FOR TRUTH, Sharon Wikoff is dedicated to helping us all remember that we have the power to create a world that works for everyone. What would you like to see created? Sharon interviews inspiring guests who encourage us to remember our true nature and our natural connection to the planet and all of life. Voice For Truth will support you in knowing your greatness and empower you to know your voice matters. Exceptional young people will share their projects and how they are making a difference in the world. Sharon supports listeners to deeply realize their own unique potential, power and purpose.

Tune in to Voice For Truth, Mondays at 9 AM Pacific Time on the Voice America Variety Channel.

5 Spiritual Practices to Prepare For the End of Life

BeliefNet.com By Patt Lind-Kyle MA

In a recent article published by BeliefNet.com, Patt shares how to use your faith to handle your last days through 5 spiritual practices.

In her intimate essay, Patt opens with “Spirit is the force within you that is believed to give your body life, energy, and power. If this vital force gives life to all of us then a spiritual practice would seem to be an important part of your daily life for an existence filled with health, balance and vitality. If that is true for your life now, then how do spiritual practices help you at the end of your life?”
5 Spiritual Practices image from BeliefNet.com and Shutterstock
We begin with forgiveness and then in turn gratitude, appreciation, kindness and compassion. These five spiritual practices will help you to prepare for the end of your life. Each practice is a life-long journey of learning and discovery.  With each practice, Patt offers compelling exercises to open your heart, heal your mind, and embrace a conscious awakening process.

Read  5 Spiritual Practices to Prepare for the End of Life

Patt on Moments with Marianne Pestana on iHeart Radio

I was delighted to be a guest with Marianne Pestana on Moments with Marianne on Monday, November 27th.  Listen to the interview podcast at Moments with Marianne as we discuss my new book Embracing the End of Life.

In a single moment your life can change! “Moments with Marianne” is a transformative hour that covers an endless array of topics with the ‘best of the best.’ Her guest are leaders in their fields, ranging from inspirational authors, top industry leaders, business and spiritual entrepreneurs. Each guest is gifted, and a true visionary! A recognized leader in her own work, and while teaching others to develop, refocus, and grow; Marianne will bring the best guest, and sometimes a special surprise. Don’t miss this – you never know just which ‘moment’ will change your life forever.

Click to listen the podcast OR download the Moments with Marianne app on iTunes & Google Play! from Monday, November 27, 2017.

Learn more about Embracing the End of Life and explore Approaching the End of Life Resources.

MyDirectives.com – online Advance Care Directives

MyDirectivesI recently discovered a very practical tool for preparing a personalized advance care plan online through MyDirectives.com. MyDirectives makes your emergency, critical and advance care desires readily available through your mobile device and computer.  It is free, easy and always available.

A personalized online emergency, critical and advance care plan

MyDirectives is the first completely digital emergency, critical and advance care planning service that is secure, easy to understand, and free to consumers to use.  MyDirectives and MyDirectives MOBILE are services offered by ADVault, Inc., a privately held U.S. corporation dedicated to ensuring that emergency first responders, doctors, nurses and caregivers always have access to the most important voice in healthcare – yours.

Everything you need for a 21st century emergency medical care plan is in MyDirectives.com’s award-winning Universal Advance Digital Directive (uADD)™.    You can complete it in minutes or take as long as you need to feel confident.  MyDirectives is an online application “app” that helps you create your own emergency, critical and advance care plan for your family and doctors so they can make decisions on your behalf.

MyDirectives makes it easy to create a state-of-the-art emergency, critical and advance care plan. You can answer questions in your own words or pick from a selection of the most common answers. Add your thoughts with as much detail as you wish. You can even add your own video responses.

Mobile app - MyDirectivesThrough MyDirectives and MyDirectives MOBILE, ADVault helps consumers record their medical treatment wishes, preferences regarding palliative and hospice care, organ donation, and autopsy, and other critical personal information both on the device, and in the format, that is most convenient and comfortable for them. MyDirectives then works with personal health record and electronic medical record vendors, as well as healthcare providers and payers, to make all of that information securely available on demand, whenever and wherever needed.

Then when needed, MyDirectives are easy to share.You can share your emergency care plan with anyone at any time. Hospitals that link to MyDirectives can access your care plan when you are admitted.  You can also download the MyDirectives MOBILE™ app to add your own video statement to your profile.

Click to Learn How MyDirectives Works.