child education on death and dying

Teaching Death Education In Schools

Is this a deplorable idea to teach the process of dying to kids? Maybe not. Many years ago the National Education Association sought to make sexual education a necessary part of a national education curriculum. Over time information about birth control, safe sex and other elements of the sexual experience has helped kids reduce unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.  Being informed offers each of us a choice to control our life in a healthy way. It gives us back our power of choice through knowledge, understanding and awareness.

educating children on death and dying

So, what about teaching death education in schools? Would that make a difference in the lives of our children and in our own life? Forty five years ago Elizabeth Kubler-Ross  rocked the world with her pioneer work on a person’s five grief reactions prior to death. The result of Kubler-Ross’ dedicated work helped open and birth the Hospice movement as a place of caring for the dying.

I imagine if we each had a preparatory class that guided us to our choices on how to approach our own death it would make a huge difference in how we would experience the end of our life.  A training to understand death physically, emotionally and spiritually would release the burden of the fear of death that we all carry unconsciously. To live without this fear would be a gift to ourselves. This would give us peace and a new sense of vitality in living our life now.

Jessica Nutik Zitter, M.D., a critical care and palliative doctor, recently taught about death awareness to a ninth grade class. She was delighted in the response. The students were open to exploring their own approach to death. No student fainted or ran out of class but rather they were totally engaged.  Dr. Zitter believes people need conversations about death and asserts from her experience that most people want to die at home instead of in the intensive care unit –ICU of a hospital where for the most part instead of having a peaceful dying process they are hooked up to a machine to prolong their life. Her book, Extreme Measures, demonstrates what needs to be done in the medical community at end of life choices and decisions.

My soon to be published book in September, Embracing the End of Life: A journey into Dying and Awakening takes the death conversation further into learning how to shift our fear of death into becoming free of fear about dying now before we die. As a guidebook, Embracing the End of Life allows the reader to formulate how to express to our love ones our end of life wishes. Death “education” can remove the deep fear we face in this society.

 

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Embracing the End of Life – Patt on Peak Moment TV

In an intimate conversation, Patt Lind-Kyle speaks with Janaia Donaldson, producer and host of Peak Moment TV, about Patt’s upcoming book Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening  (to be released September 2017). Patt and Janaia explore the personal life experiences that inspired Patt to create this profound work.  Patt notes that most people want to have a quiet mind; we want to release the stress that constricts us and move into the expanded self.  Janaia speaks eloquently of her personal insights gained through active engagement with Patt, the workbook format of the book and related guided meditation videos.

Peak Moment TV Interview Description:

A frightening near-death experience led Patt Lind-Kyle, author of “Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain”, to wonder what happens to the mind during the dying process. Her explorations led to writing a new book “Embracing the End of Life.” She invites readers to prepare now — for living with less stress each day as well as during the dying process. She covers legal and practical issues, and the important choice of caregivers while you’re dying. Her primary focus is on cultivating now the consciousness that you’ll be in while dying — what she calls the “expanded self.” We all experience this when our hearts are open, in times of forgiveness, appreciation, compassion, and gratitude.

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Robin Mallgren and Janaia Donaldson of Yuba Gals Independent Media are the creators of Peak Moment Television. Janaia is producer and host, Robin videographer and editor.

Peak Moment TV is an online television series featuring people creating resilient communities for a more sustainable, lower-energy future in the face of energy, climate and economic uncertainty.

Episodes range from permaculture farms to electric bikes, ecovillages to car-sharing, emergency preparedness to careers for the coming times. They also include conversations with big-picture thinkers like David Korten, Richard Heinberg, Chris Martenson, and now, Patt Lind-Kyle whose framing provide context for societal and environmental events unfolding worldwide.

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It’s a Mystery

Recently two movie celebrities, a daughter and a mother, died 14 hours apart of each other. Carrie Fisher and her mother Debbie Reynolds had a close and difficult relationship. Carrie Fisher died of a heart attack returning from Europe. Debbie Reynolds after learning of the death of her daughter and best friend died fourteen hours later of a “broken heart”. What is this mystery that caused them to die so close in time to each other?  Death is the one thing in life that we have difficulty understanding or an event we are unable to control.

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Thirty thousand years ago few people lived beyond 30 years old. It was a difficult and dangerous time in order to stay alive. Ten thousand years later with the agricultural age we began to live longer.  Over the ensuing years many important discoveries helped to add more years to our life, such as removing sewage from drinking water, increasing medical means to save lives at birth, etc. Today our life expectancy is 76 years old. This much longer life gives the mental illusion that we will live forever. But death is real and we will die, and it is still a mystery.  It will happen to all of us and the time and place of our death is yet another mystery.

Our death is a significant event for each of us. If we explore our feelings about death we will find there is within us a fear of it. It is important to familiarize our self with the dying process and to face our fear with understanding and self-compassion in order to live our life more fully now. Death happens to all of us and it is a major spiritual event of our life.

In coming blogs I will outline some of the things I’ve learned about the death process and how we each can work with our fear of dying and how it can give us more joy and freedom in our lives now.

My new book, Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening can help prepare us in a way that will affect how we want to die as well as live our life now with both vitality and freedom.  The book is a guide book with exercises about understanding our death process, assessments, spiritual and religious practices to help in dying, 16 bonus videos to find our path to inner freedom and practical methods to prepare our family and caregivers for our dying, as well as how to help our friends and family to meet death without fear. The book will be available in September 2017.

Living a Shamanic Way of LIfe, and the Embodied Shamanism

Living a Shamanic Way of Life: 3 Core Lessons from the Heart of Nature with Michael Stone

Living a Shamanic Way of Life: 3 Core Lessons from the Heart of Nature

Dear friends and colleagues

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the busyness in your life and the world? Do you feel like things are out of control and you’re struggling just to get by?

Have you noticed persistent patterns from the past that keep you from loving the life you’re living?

You are not alone! Trying harder, doing more or improving yourself isn’t going to solve this! It’s not you. Our culture has become lost in the myth of separation.

Perhaps the greatest psychosis today is the plague that Michael Stone calls “Nature Deficit Disorder.” Humans, especially children, are spending less time outdoors in nature, which has resulted in an epidemic of mental, emotional and behavioral separation issues that are eroding our quality of life and living.

In our disconnected state, we get caught up in repetitive patterns that we created when we were young to cope with emotional, physical and mental traumas. In shamanism we call this ‘soul loss.’ While this strategic behavior was appropriate to protect us from harm at an early age, it becomes dysfunctional as an adult.

What would your life be like if you were to connect deeply with the web of life, which is our true source of power, and recognize that every challenge can become a portal to the creation and expression of living a life you love?

I’m pleased to share with you that Michael Stone, a shamanic practitioner, coach and teacher is teaching. You will have the opportunity to personally explore areas of your life that will open greater strength, self awareness and deeper insight. Take the opportunity of a free LIVE global online seminar on October 12th called:

Living a Shamanic Way of Life: 3 Core Lessons from the Heart of Nature

Living a Shamanic Way of LIfe, and the Embodied Shamanism course

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In this interactive event Michael will create an opportunity for you to experience journeying with all of your senses, merging with the basic elements of the web of life, and moving from chaos to clarity.

This will support you in slowing down, reconnecting with the web of life and accessing the power of the universe; the power to live a life you love!

I hope you will participate in this heart opening global event.

Blessings,

Patt Lind-Kyle

P.S.  You’ll have an opportunity to engage with Michael during this free 75-minute event. Go here to register: Living a Shamanic Way of Life online event.

Patt Lind-Kyle Prepare to Die - Awakening process

Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening Workshop

A New Workshop by Patt Lind-Kyle
in Nevada County

This is a pre-publication workshop of Patt’s new book  Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening

An invitation …

Rainbow registerDeath is a sacred act. It is the most important moment in our life. It is also the moment of waking up. Death is inevitable no matter how repressed we make it in our culture. We will all die. How do we prepare now and discover the freedom from the fear of death to live more expanded lives?

After facing my own death a few years ago I learned about the process of dying. I also discovered the process of how death helps us wake up to an expanded life now.  I have learned the importance of community with family and friends as we unravel our fear of death and for meeting our actual death itself.  This is an invitation to you to embrace your own death and for those whom you love.

Objectives

Together in this workshop we will explore the death process, the perils of medical interference, the kind of caregivers we want to be with us as we die, the legal process and the stages of awakening of how our death helps us be more alive now. I want us to share together how we can be prepared for both a healthy life and a healthy death.

Join me as we create community together in an ongoing experiential workshop.

  • Engage together in exploring as a community how to support each other in facing the fears and challenges of our death.
  • Learn how to awaken and expand more fully in our lives now.
  • Develop your own personal guide for supporting you and your loved ones in the dying process.

Process

  • This workshop will be a progressive deepening process with information, discussion, exercises, reflections, visualizations, and meditations.
  • We also will be working with a new DVD that will accompany the book. Integrating binaural beats and coded color music, the DVD takes us through the various stages of our awakening.

The next step

Attending this workshop will take courage and commitment. Take this next step in your life for yourself and for friends and love ones who you can support in their dying.

This is an on-going weekly workshop for three months.

We will meet every Wednesday from 6:00-8:00pm

Starting April 6, 2016 through June 22, 2016

This will be a closed group

To be in the workshop the commitment is $80 (x3) to be prepaid at the beginning of each month. You will be prompted to pay by credit card or Paypal during the registration process on Patt’s website.

When you sign up you will receive directions to Patt’s Meditation Cottage.

Registration is now closed.

Please contact Patt if you have questions about the workshop.

More about Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening

If you missed Patt’s interview with Elisa Parker about her soon to be released book  Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening, visit Patt on Conversations to listen now.

For more about Patt’s book and accompanying DVD visit Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening

 

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Patt Lind-Kyle on Conversations

Patt Lind-Kyle spoke about her soon to be released “Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening” formerly entitled “From Fear to Freedom: A Guide for Life and the End of Life” on KVMR 89.5 Radio Conversations with Elisa Parker.

Patt shared perspectives on the fear and denial our culture holds around death.  Patt reflects on the time in our recent history when people were born, lived and died on their own property.  As people moved off the land and humans turned to mortuaries for burials, we lost our day to day familiarity with death. As we pushed death away, death became a painful experience.

From Patt’s research and meditation, she has discovered the concept of the constricted-self.  The constricted-self is a state we develop in this life but not the state we move into at death. In her book Patt has found that an understanding of the process of dying releases the fear of death. The reason to release the fear allows us to live free now.  Her book shows how death is a mental, spiritual and physical experience.

Through exercise, visualizations and meditations, Patt guides us to transform our relationship with death.  Patt’s book is a workbook that is designed to work with families, friends and organizations to serve each other at the time of death. Once we relearn to see that death may be the most important experience in our life, it changes our day to day life.

Patt’s book “Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening” will include a DVD of guided meditations to aid individuals and groups through awakening and preparing for death.

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Yes you CAN teach your brain new tricks!

Yes you CAN teach your brain new tricks!

Retraining Your Inner “Old Dog”: Yes, You Can Change Your Life…But First You Must-Literally-Change Your Mind.
Most of us believe that there are aspects of ourselves and the way we fit into the world that can’t be changed, whether we like it or not. But what if that’s not the case after all? Author Patt Lind-Kyle promises that you can change your life (and literally rewire your brain!) through a method that has been around for millennia: meditation.

If you’re like most people, you’re dissatisfied with some area of your life. Perhaps you’re stuck in a dead-end job or an unfulfilling relationship. Maybe you’re deep in debt from compulsive spending, or you abuse substances, or you habitually overeat. Or it could be that you just feel unhappy in general: anxious, stressed, depressed, or chronically angry. But no matter how fervently you vow to stop your unhealthy behaviors or change your attitude, you find yourself backsliding-eating another doughnut, sneaking another cigarette, or dwelling on the painful memories that make you miserable.

Maybe life has to be this way, you find yourself thinking. Maybe unhappiness is just a big part of the human condition. Maybe the best we can hope for is to distract ourselves from time to time and just try to endure. Sure it’s a bleak outlook, but isn’t it also a realistic one?

“Absolutely not,” asserts Patt Lind-Kyle, author of Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain: Applying the Exciting New Science of Brain Synchrony for Creativity, Peace and Presence (Energy Psychology Press, 2009, ISBN: 1604150564) and mind training guide whose voice appears on the book’s companion CDs. “It is possible to change your life in any way you want to change it. But first you have to understand what’s at the root of your problems: your mind and the way it directs your brain to function-basically, where you place your attention.”

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Who’s in Charge of Your Life?

If you want to get what you want in life and make life changes, your brain is the one in charge. To take charge of your life you need to know how your brain works. If you want to change jobs, find a partner, make more money, deepen your spiritual practice or heal from an illness learn to use the resources of your brain. Once you learn to instruct your brain what you want, it will follow your instructions. Continuing brain research sheds light on how the brain works and is giving us the tools to use our brain functions more effectively.

Amazing New Research

For example, research being done by neuroscientist Dr. Adrian Owen at the University of Cambridge in England opens up fascinating insights of how to use our brain. Dr. Owen’s research is with people who are comatose and appear to be brain dead. This means they are still breathing but do not respond to any outward stimulus. The question Dr Owen had was whether patients that do not respond to outward stimulus still have inward mental awareness.

To answer this question Dr. Owen studied a woman patient who had been in a vegetative state for five months due to a traffic accident. When Dr Owen examined her and shined light in her eyes there was no response and when he talked to her there no response. Outwardly, all he could perceive was that she was just breathing. Given no outward reaction he wanted to know if her brain was conscious and aware and was she still registering internal listening?

Dr. Owen decided to find out what was going on inside her brain. His plan was to use a new brain stethoscope to register brain response in the pre motor cortex area of the brain. Before his patient was put into the brain machine he first spoke to her and described to her verbally what he was going to do and what he wanted her to do. Of course there was no response from her. When she was placed in the machine he whispered in her ear, “Imagine you are at Wimbledon at the tennis courts and you are at the back line to serve the ball.” He then asked her to imagine playing tennis for a short time and then stop and relax.

As Dr. Owen observed on the monitor the woman’s brain functions he was amazed at what he saw in the activity of her brain. The brain lit up with activity in the pre motor cortex that controls physical activity. The pre motor cortex lit up and then stopped as she imagined playing tennis and as she imagined being relaxed just as Dr. Owen had instructed her. The brain thought she was really playing tennis. Dr Owen said, “The brain activity was just like a healthy patient who was very conscious and aware.”

We see the same brain patterns in conscious, awake people who imagine similar scenes as the patient. The conclusion of this research is that even though there is no outward patient sensual responses the brain is still active and the patient is still internally conscious. We now know from this research and others that there is a place in the brain that is stimulated when you imagine and the brain functions as though you are actually doing it physically.

What Does Dr. Owen’s Research Have to Do with You Getting What You Want?

The philosopher, Jiddu Krishnamurti said, “One may be surrounded by great beauty, by mountains and fields and rivers, but unless one is alive to it all, one might just as well be dead.” To be “alive to it all” happens when you surrender your body to your environment and become aware to the outer world through your sensations? Often when we let go to all our sensations there is a feeling of revitalization, a relaxation and a perception of being in the moment. Remember: the brain doesn’t know any difference between what you physically experience and what you imagine.

So, take a moment now as you read this, to imagine yourself being in a beautiful countryside with all the colors and sensations of nature. Imagine the openness of the blue sky, textures of the green trees, the plants, and the smell of fresh air. For a moment close your eyes and just soak it in. As you imagined the scene your brain became very active giving you that experience as though you were actually physically in that scene. Notice if you were revitalized and energized by that quick imagining. If not, do it again, relax your body and focus deeply on the visual sensations.

The brain doesn’t know the difference between the sensations from the outside world or your inner imagination. Both the inner and outer sensations of visual, auditory, smell, touch and taste are run by the alpha brain waves. (Remember Alpha waves are one of the four primary brain waves) Dr. Owen’s patient’s brain responded to the instructions to play tennis and her sensory brain waves enabled her to play tennis as though she was actually on the court.

Dr. Owen’s and other research demonstrates that you can imagine in your life what you want to create by using the imagined sensations of your Alpha waves to activate your brain and then manifest in the real world as you imagine it. But you must use all of your sensations to lite up your brain. In my own life recently I imagined that I wanted more meditation clients. I sat and imagined that I heard a car coming down the road to my meditation cottage. I saw a person through the window and then knocking on the door. I felt the knob on my hand as I opened the door. I smelled the fresh air as I opened the door and saw the person coming through the door and sitting down. In a matter of months I had a wonderful group of clients by using my alpha brain waves and telling my brain what I wanted.

So, How Do You Do It?

First of all remember that the brain wants consistency and repetition to produce change. Set up a daily schedule where you practice imagining with the Alpha waves once a day either in the morning or evening. Then do the following:

  1. Relax your body to activate the Alpha Brain Waves. You can use the Relaxation track of my CD Heal Your Mind Rewire Your Brain. The track has subliminal, binaural beats that help you go quickly into the Alpha state.
  2. Then imagine what you want by using all the sensations in your imaginary scene as I did for myself in the example above. Use sensations of visual, auditory, smell, touch and taste.
  3. Do this relaxation and imagining every day until you begin to have the results you want. Don’t force the change, or be attached mentally to the out come. Let your imagining do it.
  4. As you complete each session, offer gratitude for what you have received to keep the process going.

As you begin to see the results for what you want in your life unfold don’t hesitate to use your Alpha Brain Waves to open up more intentions in your life. Enjoy.

SMILE: It May Save Your Life!

Years ago Nat King Cole sang a song called “Smile.” According to new research these lyrics may have some scientific value.  Here are a few of the lyrics of the song.

Nat King Cole “Smile though your heart is aching

Smile even though it’s breaking

When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by

 

If you smile through your fear and sorrow

Smile and maybe tomorrow

You’ll see the sun come shining through for you, just smile”

 

SCIENCE OF SMILING

Brain-informationSo what happens to our brain when we smile?  Here is an example.

You are shopping and you see an old friend you have not seen in a long time. You smile and greet your friend warmly. Inside your head your brain’s neuronal signals travel towards your smiling muscles and moves them to form a smile. But that is not all that is happening. The next thing occurring is that there is a positive signal feedback loop back to your brain. This feedback loop creates a feeling of joy as your smile stimulates the brain’s reward center in a way that chocolate can’t even match. In short, our brain tells us to smile, we smile and the smile muscles tell our brain this is a wonderful feeling and so it continues as long as you keep smiling.

THE IMPORTANCE OF SMILING

Prime-brainSmiling can change your brain through this powerful feed back loop because it gives us the same feeling of euphoria as if we were physically exercising. What is really interesting is that the brain does not know the difference between a fake or real smile.  With either type of smile the brain will stimulate the same areas in the brain. The brain also knows how often you smile and what emotional state you are experiencing when you smile.

Smiling is invaluable to you as it reduces stress in your brain, in your mind as well as your body. Your physical and emotional tensions as well as your personal stress patterns are reduced when you mentally shift to Smiling childpositive thoughts of caring, gratitude, and appreciation. These Secret-of-Cellstypes of thoughts do not create tension; rather they quickly reduce tension in your body. In fact, these thoughts reduce stress all the way down into your cells.  Sandra Barrett PhD is a biochemist that shares exciting emerging cell research in her new book, Secrets of your cells.

 

INTELLIGENCE OF OUR CELLS

Dr. Barrett claims from her research that intelligence or consciousness lives and flows inside the cells.  Our cells, she says, knows when you let go of your tension.  In the research she found that when you are tense the inner cellular tubules rigidly attach to cell brain-cellwalls. Further, when you mentally let go of tension the cell tubules also let go of their rigidness and their old tight reaction programs. For example, when people who have a disease such as cancer let go of something emotionally big like anger toward their mother these people often go into remission of cancer.  When the cells are given the signal to let go of tension they turn on another gene program like peace and healing. If we let go and open up to smiling when we are tense it can affect the cells to release any dis-ease in our lives.

qdotsFrom what I’ve described you can understand how a smile could save your life.  When we relax through smiling our cells move into a state of resonance that produces peacefulness.  There is no tug on cells or struggle to fix X, Y or Z. The cells are playing the same song and the inner tubules are vibrating all in the same rhythm. The lyrics of Nate King Cole’s song are really true.

 

 

SMILING AND MEDITATION

Meditation-SmileWhat we can learn from the cells about resonance is how to entrain our minds in meditation by using smiling to enter into a state of deep peacefulness.

Here are three steps to increase the depth of your meditation using smiling.

1. Prepare you body by listening to the first track in my CD

/PattCDCoverGlowHeal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain.  In this track you are guided to use your intention to direct the brain to relax your body.

Brain2. Once your body is relaxed there may still be thoughts that will arise in your mind.  As you become aware of these thoughts ask your brain to release them and then smile.  As you smile you will notice the mind and body will relax and quiet even more.

3. Whenever your mind drifts come back to focusing on your smile. PattRemember the brain cells don’t know the difference between a genuine smile and an intentional smile. Both will bring the relaxation and a deeper state of meditation.

This practice of conscious smiling can be used when you are not sitting in meditation. Make the choice to intentionally smile when you are feeling tense or emotionally down or just having a rough day. Just smile. It could save your life!PattDavid