child education on death and dying

Teaching Death Education In Schools

Is this a deplorable idea to teach the process of dying to kids? Maybe not. Many years ago the National Education Association sought to make sexual education a necessary part of a national education curriculum. Over time information about birth control, safe sex and other elements of the sexual experience has helped kids reduce unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.  Being informed offers each of us a choice to control our life in a healthy way. It gives us back our power of choice through knowledge, understanding and awareness.

educating children on death and dying

So, what about teaching death education in schools? Would that make a difference in the lives of our children and in our own life? Forty five years ago Elizabeth Kubler-Ross  rocked the world with her pioneer work on a person’s five grief reactions prior to death. The result of Kubler-Ross’ dedicated work helped open and birth the Hospice movement as a place of caring for the dying.

I imagine if we each had a preparatory class that guided us to our choices on how to approach our own death it would make a huge difference in how we would experience the end of our life.  A training to understand death physically, emotionally and spiritually would release the burden of the fear of death that we all carry unconsciously. To live without this fear would be a gift to ourselves. This would give us peace and a new sense of vitality in living our life now.

Jessica Nutik Zitter, M.D., a critical care and palliative doctor, recently taught about death awareness to a ninth grade class. She was delighted in the response. The students were open to exploring their own approach to death. No student fainted or ran out of class but rather they were totally engaged.  Dr. Zitter believes people need conversations about death and asserts from her experience that most people want to die at home instead of in the intensive care unit –ICU of a hospital where for the most part instead of having a peaceful dying process they are hooked up to a machine to prolong their life. Her book, Extreme Measures, demonstrates what needs to be done in the medical community at end of life choices and decisions.

My soon to be published book in September, Embracing the End of Life: A journey into Dying and Awakening takes the death conversation further into learning how to shift our fear of death into becoming free of fear about dying now before we die. As a guidebook, Embracing the End of Life allows the reader to formulate how to express to our love ones our end of life wishes. Death “education” can remove the deep fear we face in this society.

 

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Embracing the End of Life – Patt on Peak Moment TV

In an intimate conversation, Patt Lind-Kyle speaks with Janaia Donaldson, producer and host of Peak Moment TV, about Patt’s upcoming book Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening  (to be released September 2017). Patt and Janaia explore the personal life experiences that inspired Patt to create this profound work.  Patt notes that most people want to have a quiet mind; we want to release the stress that constricts us and move into the expanded self.  Janaia speaks eloquently of her personal insights gained through active engagement with Patt, the workbook format of the book and related guided meditation videos.

Peak Moment TV Interview Description:

A frightening near-death experience led Patt Lind-Kyle, author of “Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain”, to wonder what happens to the mind during the dying process. Her explorations led to writing a new book “Embracing the End of Life.” She invites readers to prepare now — for living with less stress each day as well as during the dying process. She covers legal and practical issues, and the important choice of caregivers while you’re dying. Her primary focus is on cultivating now the consciousness that you’ll be in while dying — what she calls the “expanded self.” We all experience this when our hearts are open, in times of forgiveness, appreciation, compassion, and gratitude.

Peak Moment TV ~ Locally Reliant Living for Challenging Times

Robin Mallgren and Janaia Donaldson of Yuba Gals Independent Media are the creators of Peak Moment Television. Janaia is producer and host, Robin videographer and editor.

Peak Moment TV is an online television series featuring people creating resilient communities for a more sustainable, lower-energy future in the face of energy, climate and economic uncertainty.

Episodes range from permaculture farms to electric bikes, ecovillages to car-sharing, emergency preparedness to careers for the coming times. They also include conversations with big-picture thinkers like David Korten, Richard Heinberg, Chris Martenson, and now, Patt Lind-Kyle whose framing provide context for societal and environmental events unfolding worldwide.

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It’s a Mystery

Recently two movie celebrities, a daughter and a mother, died 14 hours apart of each other. Carrie Fisher and her mother Debbie Reynolds had a close and difficult relationship. Carrie Fisher died of a heart attack returning from Europe. Debbie Reynolds after learning of the death of her daughter and best friend died fourteen hours later of a “broken heart”. What is this mystery that caused them to die so close in time to each other?  Death is the one thing in life that we have difficulty understanding or an event we are unable to control.

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Thirty thousand years ago few people lived beyond 30 years old. It was a difficult and dangerous time in order to stay alive. Ten thousand years later with the agricultural age we began to live longer.  Over the ensuing years many important discoveries helped to add more years to our life, such as removing sewage from drinking water, increasing medical means to save lives at birth, etc. Today our life expectancy is 76 years old. This much longer life gives the mental illusion that we will live forever. But death is real and we will die, and it is still a mystery.  It will happen to all of us and the time and place of our death is yet another mystery.

Our death is a significant event for each of us. If we explore our feelings about death we will find there is within us a fear of it. It is important to familiarize our self with the dying process and to face our fear with understanding and self-compassion in order to live our life more fully now. Death happens to all of us and it is a major spiritual event of our life.

In coming blogs I will outline some of the things I’ve learned about the death process and how we each can work with our fear of dying and how it can give us more joy and freedom in our lives now.

My new book, Embracing the End of Life: A Journey into Dying and Awakening can help prepare us in a way that will affect how we want to die as well as live our life now with both vitality and freedom.  The book is a guide book with exercises about understanding our death process, assessments, spiritual and religious practices to help in dying, 16 bonus videos to find our path to inner freedom and practical methods to prepare our family and caregivers for our dying, as well as how to help our friends and family to meet death without fear. The book will be available in September 2017.

Living a Shamanic Way of LIfe, and the Embodied Shamanism

Living a Shamanic Way of Life: 3 Core Lessons from the Heart of Nature with Michael Stone

Living a Shamanic Way of Life: 3 Core Lessons from the Heart of Nature

Dear friends and colleagues

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the busyness in your life and the world? Do you feel like things are out of control and you’re struggling just to get by?

Have you noticed persistent patterns from the past that keep you from loving the life you’re living?

You are not alone! Trying harder, doing more or improving yourself isn’t going to solve this! It’s not you. Our culture has become lost in the myth of separation.

Perhaps the greatest psychosis today is the plague that Michael Stone calls “Nature Deficit Disorder.” Humans, especially children, are spending less time outdoors in nature, which has resulted in an epidemic of mental, emotional and behavioral separation issues that are eroding our quality of life and living.

In our disconnected state, we get caught up in repetitive patterns that we created when we were young to cope with emotional, physical and mental traumas. In shamanism we call this ‘soul loss.’ While this strategic behavior was appropriate to protect us from harm at an early age, it becomes dysfunctional as an adult.

What would your life be like if you were to connect deeply with the web of life, which is our true source of power, and recognize that every challenge can become a portal to the creation and expression of living a life you love?

I’m pleased to share with you that Michael Stone, a shamanic practitioner, coach and teacher is teaching. You will have the opportunity to personally explore areas of your life that will open greater strength, self awareness and deeper insight. Take the opportunity of a free LIVE global online seminar on October 12th called:

Living a Shamanic Way of Life: 3 Core Lessons from the Heart of Nature

Living a Shamanic Way of LIfe, and the Embodied Shamanism course

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In this interactive event Michael will create an opportunity for you to experience journeying with all of your senses, merging with the basic elements of the web of life, and moving from chaos to clarity.

This will support you in slowing down, reconnecting with the web of life and accessing the power of the universe; the power to live a life you love!

I hope you will participate in this heart opening global event.

Blessings,

Patt Lind-Kyle

P.S.  You’ll have an opportunity to engage with Michael during this free 75-minute event. Go here to register: Living a Shamanic Way of Life online event.

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Patt Lind-Kyle on the Integration of Science and Spirituality

In this short video with Emmett Miller, MD on Healing Times Radio, Patt Lind-Kyle, talks about her book Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain. Dr. Miller asks, “How does your work integrate science and spirituality?”

In response, Patt Lind-Kyle describes the integration of science and spirituality with the mind and brain working together to arrive at a sense of who we are. Watch here:

Video: How Patt Got Started with Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain

In this video interview with Emmett Miller, MD on Healing Times Radio, Patt talks about:

  • how she began her book, Heal Your Mind, Rewire Your Brain and
  • the difference between spiritual consciousness and ordinary consciousness
  • how an EEG machine helped Patt understand her own brain waves states and apply that knowledge for others
  • how she got started working with the 4 brain waves: beta, alpha, theta, delta

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Video: What can I learn from Heal the Mind, Rewire the Brain?

In this video, Emmett Miller, MD asks Patt, “what can people learn from this book?” Patt answers:

Heal the Mind, Rewire the Brain is split into 2 parts:

1) the science of the brain

– how the brain works

– how the mind works

– what happens they flow together and what stops the flow

2) the brain and its electrical and chemical components

– the 4 neurochemicals

– the 4 brainwaves

– what happens when they are out of balance and in balance

Video: Monitoring the Awakened Brain

In this video interview with Emmett Miller MD, Patt Lind-Kyle describes how she uses an EEG machine to monitor brain waves states and help people increase their awareness about achieving a balanced brain wave state. Patt discusses the 4 brainwave frequencies: beta, alpha, theta, delta

Video: Following the Brain into Meditation

In Segment 5 of Patt Lind-Kyle’s interview with Dr. Emmett Miller of Healing Times Radio, Patt talks about:

  • What is the brainwave frequency called beta, what is its frequency, what does it do to the mind and what kind of behavior does one have while in beta?
  • How does one reduce fast brain waves to calm the system and move into the brainwave frequency for strategic thinking (at 15 Hz within the beta range)?
  • What happens around 12 Hz with our attention and ability to focus/concentrate?

In the book Heal the Mind, Rewire the Brain, Patt looks at these 3 areas and suggests exercises to manage these brainwave states:

1) Learning to relax the entire body in order to get to know the body and reduce pain
2) Using the CD’s to help learn this process

Dr. Miller asks: How do people know if they are in the meditative state? Patt answers:

  • Meditation is deeper than relaxation
  • Once the body is very quiet and relaxed, then you can notice your breath and sense the rhythm to the breath
  • Then you notice body sensations, visual sensations, thoughts, sounds
  • Then you are in the next level: alpha (an aware state) and you look to see “who’s aware?” by noticing the observer – moving to the bridge from conscious state to meditation state/sub-conscious state
  • This awareness becomes habituated for most people so it is important to learn these techniques

Video: Applying the 4 Tools: Attention, Intention, Receptivity, Awareness

In Segment 6 of Patt’s interview with Dr. Emmett Miller, MD on Healing Times Radio, Patt talks about applying the 4 tools of attention, intention, receptivity and awareness.  When your mind is more trained, we learn to “face it, embrace it, it erase” and the mind becomes quieter.